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The Power of Self-Acceptance

Are you struggling with self acceptance right now?  The struggle to fully accept who God has called you to be? Do you feel like you are constantly trying to reinvent and redefine yourself in an exhausting struggle to “find yourself”? Do you find yourself often trying to imitate others who appear more confident, unique, or successful than you? Do you long to love yourself for who you are but are not even sure where to begin?
Beloved, you are not alone.

So many at one point in life and some for years battle the giant of self-condemnation, comparison, and low self-esteem. It is an issue that can’t immediately be seen by others and for a little while can be masked, photoshopped, and hidden. But eventually it rears its ugly head in unsuspecting ways: an envious thought, a compliment not received, a feeling of inadequacy around another individual.
I can only speak on this because I’ve known it so well. Read on and be encouraged that you are not alone and that you can be victorious and experience the power of self-acceptance for yourself.

I am convinced the only thing that will bring complete and unconditional self-acceptance in our lives is to know and receive God’s love for us.

Self-acceptance and further self-love, like any true kind of love, is not something we can manufacture within ourselves. We can only love because He first loved us (1 John 4:19). The same is true concerning self-acceptance.We can only finally accept ourselves when we understand that God, the One we truly desire acceptance from, already loves and accepts us wholeheartedly!

Here are some Biblical gems that will help us clearly see the way our Heavenly Father truly views us. Allow these truths to wash over you, removing the grime of negative self-talk and condemnation. You are loved! Meditate on these noble truths:

God has chosen us (Romans 8:31-39).

We did not choose God, He chose us, and He did so with full knowledge of our hang ups and past, present, and future sins (John 15:16). In Romans Paul calls Christians, God’s “elect” or chosen people. Isn’t it beautiful to know God chose you, not through coercion or obligation, but willingly and gladly?

This isn’t the same kind of chosen in an interview where you present your best self and are chosen, or the kind of chosen in a competition where you are selected as winner because you have demonstrated the most talent and ability of the pool of competitors. THIS kind of being chosen has nothing to do with what you do but simply who God is, a loving Father who loves His children, YOU!

Nothing can Separate us from God’s Love

“For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Romans 8:38-39)

Nothing can separate us from the love of God! Not even us! God cannot love us any more or any less regardless of anything we do or fail to do. Our shortcomings, constant failings, weaknesses, sins, none of it retracts one iota of love from Gods heart towards us.

To the contrary, when we mess us God makes intercession for us and often speaks to us through His Holy Spirit, gently urging us to turn back to Him in sweet repentance. Wow. When we realize God’s love isn’t based on performance, merit, or our own paradoxical “self-righteousness”, we can enter into a beautiful world of love, freedom, and self-acceptance.

We are a part of God’s family

If you have accepted Jesus as your Lord and Savior, received His love, salvation, and acceptance for you personally, then you have been engrafted into the beautiful, dynamic, and eternal family of God. We are sons (and daughters) of God through adoption (Ephesians 1:5-6), we are no longer orphans, but we are valued members of God’s family!

I encourage you to meditate on the fact that right now, whether in this moment you have been walking in total victory or condemnation and defeat- that God considers you His son or daughter.

As a mom I know no matter what my son does I will always love him, always forgive him, and always accept him with open arms. I would be crushed if one day I went to scoop him up in my arms and he pulled away because he felt unworthy of my love or as if I didn’t truly love him. God is your Abba Father, your daddy, and He loves you irrevocably.

God Rejoices over YOU!

Close your eyes and imagine God looking down at you, eyes brimming with tears overflowing with love and joy for you. Do you know you bring God so much joy there are times He begins to break out and sing at the very thought of his love for YOU.

“The LORD your God in your midst, The Mighty One, will save; He will rejoice over you with gladness, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing.” (Zephaniah 3:17 emphasis added)

Soak in God’s love for you today. Meditate on these verses taken from The Bible, Gods love letter to us, and watch the knowledge of God’s love begin to seep to your heart and emotions until you are full of the Fathers love for you.

It becomes so much easier to accept ourselves when we know we have already been accepted by a perfect, all-knowing, all-powerful, loving God. He accepts you right now, your hair, body type, voice, style, personality. Not only does he accept these things about you, He celebrates them.

I encourage you today to accept, love, and celebrate exactly who God made you to be. No one can be you but you, and no one can touch Gods heart quite like you can.

We invite you to pray this prayer with us today:

“God help me to know and accept your unconditional love for me. Show me what you had in mind when you created me. Help me to be rooted and grounded in your love. I receive your love today. I know you willingly and gladly gave your life for me and that even now you rejoice over me. Help to experience that joy and love. In Jesus name I pray, Amen!”

Was this post helpful for you? We pray it has brought you inspiration and encouragement in your journey of self-acceptance. Feel free to share your comments, questions, and life stories below. We love hearing from you!

4 replies
  1. Patricia
    Patricia says:

    Awesome post. I think it’s safe to say it was tailor made for me:-) :-) .

    For the past few years, I have struggled with self acceptance. This reached its peak when I joined the university. The other girls seemed to dress better, live better and even appeared prettier in my mind.

    It’s been about 2 months since I graduated but that insecure young lady still resurfaces from time to time.

    Just this morning, I said very harsh words to my fiance because I felt he did not appreciate my work enough. (He commended me for writing good articles and suggested I make some changes).

    I have said the prayer and I will keep focusing on my Heavenly Father’s love. I’m getting married in a few weeks and I don’t want to start that new blessed chapter with a depleted soul.

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    • Jade Lee
      Jade Lee says:

      Sweet Patricia,

      I too have been where you are struggling with harsh words or a difficulty to Know His Acceptance fully, but I have seen Him change me from faith to faith and glory to glory! I encourage you to Celebrate your Victories and continue allowing Him to affirm your beauty. It is here where we change. Our self image comes from the beliefs we have about ourselves…are they rooted in the Word of GOD. When we have been surrounded by harshness and have unmet emotional needs in our lives, harshness begins to come out of us. We Need His Love and An Awareness of His approval over and over again…To many years of blissful marriage! In His Love! JL

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  2. Asia Wilson
    Asia Wilson says:

    I have struggled with low self-esteem for years. But God has been faithful in showing me who I am in Him and that I don’t have to strive to be an acceptable daughter in His eyes. I just AM! This was a wonderful post to help me to keep God, the Father’s, love at the forefront of my mind. I am His daughter. I just am. Thank you again for this wonderful post!

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    • Jade Lee
      Jade Lee says:

      Dear Asia,

      It brings me great joy knowing that you are coming out of low self-esteem and into His identity for you! I pray many more women are able to find the same positioning in Christ letting go of striving to gain His approval.

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