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GOD Cares About My Feelings Too?

Jade Lee {Podcast at Bottom}

For years I experienced a lack of feeling the love of GOD in my emotional life, desperately longing for a touch from the Master’s Hand.  Have you ever known you are loved by GOD in your intellect, yet struggled to find His love in an emotional connection; do you know without a shadow of a doubt that you are His BeLoved?

When we begin to struggle with feeling loved, at least when I have experienced this phenomenon, it has always led me back to man’s imperfection and a misperception of GOD’s Personality.

Feeling His love is extremely important whereas we are made up of 80% emotional intelligence.  The majority of our makeup is emotional.  Unfortunately, we do not always realize this and are sometimes encouraged to downplay our emotions, preferring the intellectual or spiritual approach.

GOD cares about your every emotion and He does not expect you to dismiss how you feel with thoughts of “It doesn’t matter how I feel.  I’ll replace feeling with faith.”  Instead He connects to us emotionally and heals our hearts in love

There is nothing wrong with reading the Bible intellectually or understanding it from a spiritual perspective, but when emotion is removed we lose the heart of GOD for us…Take a look at the following Scriptures:

  • Isaiah 41:10 Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
  • John 5:29 You search the Scriptures because you think that in them you have eternal life; and it is they that bear witness about me
  • Isaiah 43:4 Because you are precious in my eyes, and honored, and I love you, I give men in return for you, peoples in exchange for your life.
  • Deuteronomy 33:12 Of Benjamin he said, “The beloved of the Lord dwells in safety. The High God surrounds him all day long, and dwells between his shoulders.”
  • Jeremiah 31:13 Then shall the young women rejoice in the dance, and the young men and the old shall be merry. I will turn their mourning into joy; I will comfort them, and give them gladness for sorrow.

In each one of these passages, GOD speaks to our emotions.  He knows we will experience fear so He communicates that He is with us and we are not alone.  This is the image of a gentle, loving, embracive father reassuring his frightened child.

Have you ever been afraid of the dark, then your father or mother comes into the room, lovingly embracing you?  You can feel their presence and you are suddenly comforted.  This is what GOD does for us in Isaiah 41:10.

Jesus constantly drew us from the intellectual study of the Scripture to a contemporary relational perspective.  He would say things like, “You thought that you would find eternal life in the Scriptures, but you find it in Me, in a relationship with Me.”  You can’t find life outside of emotional connectivity with Me.

This is why it is so important to be connected deeply with ourselves and GOD on an emotional level.  The more we know about who we are and how GOD really views us, the more freedom we obtain in our lives.

Truth begins to meet our emotions, which many times have been deeply harmed and we are made free!

For example, for years I was broken and hurt because of my view of GOD.  Due to no one person’s intentions, but a lot of generational misperception, I was taught to see GOD as a hard, highly driven and highly expectant personality.

He constantly wanted yet another performance out of me and it never seemed to end.  No matter how well I did, GOD overlooked my good and saw my lack, then He harshly rebuked me, giving me another seemingly impossible command.

No matter how well I did, GOD overlooked my good and saw my lack, then He harshly rebuked me, giving me another seemingly impossible command.

This is not to say that GOD never wants anything out of us, nor that we will never go through hardship.  But it is to say that we may struggle to be faithful and committed to Him when we do not have a strong enough emotional connection to His love for us, regardless of our situations.

How can a human who does not emotionally know the love of GOD, does not have a broken and contrite spirit really live in the abundance of GOD?  We are made up of 80% emotion, GOD has given us emotional Scriptures based on His makeup and ours.  We can conclude He definitely cares about our emotional health.

Three of the five Scriptures listed above are from typically seen as prophetic books of the Bible.  When we have a faulty perspective of GOD, we see these books as scary or demeaning, a harsh GOD judging humanity with no grace.

But even in this books of the bible, we experience His heart.  Miss his heart?  You miss the meaning of the text in a historical, current and personal context.

We all long to hear these words from the love of our life, or anyone for that matter, “I’m doing this for you because you are precious to me, when I see you I see you as a valuable jewel.  I honor and love you with all of my heart and I would do anything for you.  No material item could ever be worth a moment in your presence.  I would give even my most prized possessions and many people in return for having your heart.”

This is how GOD speaks to us, His people in Isaiah 43:4.  He addresses our emotions and is determined to win us with His love:

Isaiah 43:4 Because you are precious in my eyes, and honored, and I love you, I give men in return for you, peoples in exchange for your life.

As we read the Scriptures relationally, slowing down to feel His heart, our souls begin to soften in His gentle love.

We realize how patient, kind and sweet our GOD really is, and we are comforted.  This comfort brings healing to broken, wounded areas of our hearts.

I can remember times of my father lifting me up on his shoulders as we walked on the boardwalk of a beach.  These moments were both literally and figuratively the high points of my life.

I felt huge, bigger than I could ever be on my own and my perspective was higher than I could obtain with my constantly growing legs.

I was being paraded around for all to see His acceptance and approval of me.

I was safe.

I was surrounded by His love. 

And no one could harm me because I was “dwelling between his shoulders.

Can you imagine GOD that way?  This is how He relates to us in Deuteronomy 33:12.  Now, let’s read it again in this context:

Deuteronomy 33:12 Of Benjamin he said, “The beloved of the Lord dwells in safety. The High God surrounds him all day long, and dwells between his shoulders.”

I can also remember times where my heart was so lost, broken and hurt by the mistakes of my father.  I felt all alone.  One particular moment, he came to me sitting on the bed next to me for one reason only. 

I was probably frightened by the sound of his steps, in wonderment of what I had been caught doing now for there were many sins I had hidden from him, but he came, sitting gently by my side only to say, “I’m sorry.”

That will be a memory I never forget.  Those words were comforting and reassuring to my broken heart.

GOD models this same affection for us in our pain promising us that He will turn our mourning (sad emotions of loss) into joy and He will comfort us (when in pain):

Jeremiah 31:13 Then shall the young women rejoice in the dance, and the young men and the old shall be merry. I will turn their mourning into joy; I will comfort them, and give them gladness for sorrow.

All of these Scriptures are really love letters so that we will always know how He feels about us, no matter how stormy life may blow us around in feelings of defeat or hopelessness.

You are worth loving because He has proven to love you by choice, without condition and He wants you to know this with ALL of you, not only in your head, but experiencing Him in your heart.

He is more concerned with this, much to my surprise at times, than He is with how much I can DO for Him.

Like a good daddy, He wants us to feel connected to Him.  This is a sign we are going in the right direction in relationship.

And He will do anything to win our hearts!

This truth fees us from hardened, dry, weakened hearts, full of condemnation, fear, rejection, hopelessness or being overwhelmed.

We begin to think different, believe different and feel different as we meet a Need Meeting, Loving GOD.

Meditation: GOD can cause the impossible to begin to occur in your life, even when it seems absolutely unachievable.  He can and will heal your broken heart.  He will help you in the areas you have not received His love due to false perceptions of Him.  You are loved no matter what you do and nothing you do wrong or right can change that.  This propels us to want to live for Him in passionate pursuit.

My Prayer for you: Father I pray for every daughter (and son) reading this article today.  I thank you that you are healing, restoring and reforming our perspective of who You are.  I pray for a relational, contemporary GOD to be in their lives, rather than a finger pointing, condemning GOD.  And I thank you that whatever they have lost in years past will be completely restored by Your pursuit.  In Jesus’ name!  Amen.

Have you been blessed by this article?  Tell us how in the comments!  We would love to hear from you and your testimony just may help another reader.

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4 replies
  1. Tuwa
    Tuwa says:

    OH my goodness this is so helpful. I am loving this entire series! I am often trying to convince myself to forget emotions like mentioned above. I think this is one of the fist times though I have heard of how important emotions are to having a heart knowledge of the character of God. It definitely challenges me to change my perspective where I saw a finger pointing God to see a God who is gracious and wants to connect with us. Just writing it out reminds me of the very fact Jesus came to earth and became flesh to connect with us, why would I think God would stop at that?! This series is something I can see myself going back to for refreshers for years to come, thank you!

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    • Jade Lee
      Jade Lee says:

      Dear Tuwa,

      That is so encouraging and exciting! It is in these transformative works that we are made more like Him, and for that I am so thankful. Hats off to you for wanting to go deeper with Him emotionally and to many years of freedom in your identity in Him.

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  2. Paige
    Paige says:

    Wow thank you so much for this article. Tears are welling up as I write this because I feel so much assurance from God reading about how He really does care about my emotions. Often it can be difficult for me to approach God in a place of prayer when I feel like I’m fearful or mess up or sad because I usually think He is disappointed or frustrated with my lack of faith. I once heard a quote that only faith moves God and I think it stuck with me to the point I didn’t think my emotions did. Reading this brought a lot of healing to know that God doesn’t want me to mask my “negative” emotions or dismiss them but to bring them to Him openly knowing He can and wants to heal me. Thank you again so much!!! 💞💞💞💞

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    • Jade Lee
      Jade Lee says:

      Dear Paige,

      GOD is so faithful, isn’t He? He cares so much about our emotional pain, desiring for us to know He is Not Disappointed nor Frustrated with us, yet so often we feel this way. This is why I’m taking so much time to keep reiterating this in whatever ways I can- there is an overemphasis on what we are not doing and what we need to do at times to the point that we suffer through an imbalanced perspective of who our GOD really is! Hugs & Blessings!

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