GRIEF…That 5 Letter Word we would all rather forget exists, but it’s real. It’s hard to believe that it should be a part of our lives because it seems like the remainder of the world gets over hardship oh so easily. Work continues, Motherhood goes on, Being a Wife resumes and somehow everyone is happily moving on like the dark cloud you feel doesn’t exist. It becomes problematic as we tune into the world of Social Media, where everyone’s Facebook page is full of happily behaved children, smiling faces and beautiful selfies. But this is simply not always reality.
Grief can hit us like a ton of bricks at the most unexpected, inopportune times; it is important to know we are not alone in this hidden process. It may be uncomfortable to talk about when a loved one dies, we lose a relationship we deeply valued or our health suddenly declines, but all of these losses are real. In the year 2014, I went through a few types of grief, one being the loss of our Senior Pastor, who was also like a Grandfather or mentor in our lives. It would become soon apparent that grief was a process, not a one time event. And it would take time to heal. Back to back events began to occur in our lives and we were in the midst of a mini Job-like experience.
During this time of grief, it was an opportunity to get closer to one another (as husband and wife) but also to evaluate the people we needed in various areas of our life. Looking back, grief pressed us into deeper relationship with one another. Grief opened the door to new relationships we didn’t know we needed. And grief helped us to see how to reevaluate the way we were relating to the current people in our lives.
Although this process is very painful and may not be the talk we want to have at the dinner table every night, finding the right person to talk to is very important as we heal from the wounds of deep loss.
Remember, even Jesus wept. He went through grief as one of His closest friends lay lifeless in a grave.
Have you ever been through Grief? If so, how did you endure through it and experience the healing needed to finally continue on with your life? Do you have words of encouragement for someone else who may be experiencing a similar difficulty? Please share them in the comments section below.
In His Love,
Scripture for Meditation:
1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 “Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who sleep in death, so that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope. For we believe that Jesus died and rose again, and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen asleep in him. According to the Lord’s word, we tell you that we who are still alive, who are left until the coming of the Lord, will certainly not precede those who have fallen asleep. For the Lord himself will come down from heaven, with a loud command, with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet call of God, and the dead in Christ will rise first. After that, we who are still alive and are left will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And so we will be with the Lord forever. Therefore encourage one another with these words.”