By: Paige Smith
Our families are one of God’s greatest gifts to us! Through life’s winding ups and downs we always remain permanently connected to them. They can be our greatest supports and biggest fans!
Our spouses and children become wonderful extensions of ourselves and vice versa as we grow in love and community with them!
Almost every decision we make affects our family members and in turn their decisions– as well as their thoughts and emotions– can significantly affect us.
This is why our unity as a family can impact our lives nearly more than anything else.
So what helps to unify a family?
There are many factors, but according to Marriage and Relational Life Experts Dr. David and Theresa Ferguson, setting goals as a family is one of the most effective ways to establish family unity.
“Perhaps today, more than ever,” they write, “we, as individuals and families, need a sense of direction and destiny…which we can stretch with all our strength and passions” (Intimacy Encounters 184).
Goal setting empowers a family to see themselves as one mighty force and be a powerful unified front!
Rather than every individual member simply going through life doing what seems best to them, setting goals as a family centers every person around a common sense of purpose and direction.
Family members become infinitely closer as they open up and share the inner desires of their hearts and pray together about God’s unique vision for their family as a whole!
Are you ready to begin the journey of unifying your family more than ever before?
It may seem like a daunting task so here is a list of ten goals in common life categories that you can tailor to fit your family.
10 Potential Family Goals:
1. Go on a Family Goal Setting Retreat with just you and your spouse.
Dr. David and Theresa Ferguson, counselors and authors who have created countless resources for marriages and families highly recommend spouses to get away for a weekend for the sole purpose of creating goals for their family.
If traveling out of town isn’t practical, simply arrange for babysitters for the kids and have a staycation version at the house.
It will take some planning and effort, but it will be well worth it in the end!
Their marriage resource, Intimacy Encounters, includes a full step by step outline for how to go about your own family goal setting retreat.
2. Spiritual: Have a daily couples devotional with your spouse before heading off to work.
This is a great way to start off your day with your spouse! It can be as simple as reading a scripture and praying for one another or going through a marriage devotional. Many can be found for free online and on Bible Apps.
3. Marriage: Go on a marriage retreat and an anniversary get away.
This is an amazing way to invest in our marriages! Many churches have ministries that host seasonal retreats for their couples to get away and invest in their relationship away from all distractions.
Get-aways with our spouses are always a great time to reconnect, refresh and remember again just how much we love each other.
4. Family: Plan and Have a Family Vacation.
There’s nothing like building memories as a family to bring everyone together!
From theme parks to family cruises and outdoor camping adventures there are so many options for different budgets and preferences.
5. Financial: Pay off your smallest debt as a family.
This is a great financial goal to gain momentum in paying off debt! As you all celebrate the victory of paying off one debt it will bring even more motivation to continue with any larger ones.
6. Career: Support one another to each go to an industry related conference in your feilds or read 5-10 top books in your industries this year.
This can be a great way to get in each others world and invest in what our spouses are passionate in!
7. Personal/Social: Each member begin a hobby you’ve always wanted to do this year such as learn a new language or instrument or commit to having a ladies day or guys night out once a month to build relationship.
8. Health: Do a 5K together as a family to raise money and/or awareness for a cause that is important to a member of the family.
9. Household: Gradually declutter and organize every room of the house and bring any unused clothes and items to a donation center.
Everyone can pitch in by going through their belongings and seeing what they’re ready to give away.
10. Ministry: Every member pray and find a local ministry or outreach they are passionate about to serve into this year.
International motivational speaker Tony Robbins once said “Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.” Many times the only thing between us and our dreams is a clear plan to get there.
What goals are you most excited about doing with your family this year? Do you have more goals that have worked for you in the past and you think may help other families? Or things you did in your growing up years that others might want to adopt?
Share in the comments and we can build one another’s dreams together!